Sometimes the LGBT community really upsets me. And when it comes to labels…DING DING DING! They tend to really upset me. I don’t necessarily hate them. You can’t get past labels. They exist everywhere. People are black, people are white, people are straight, people are gay, etc. Labels are just descriptions and it is human nature to describe. Labels can even be helpful in cases where you want to refer to a distinct group of people or when you need to exclude a group etc. The problem that I have is the discrimination within the gay community that comes with labels. Commonly the terms femme and stud or ag (whatever! I don’t use any of them very often) are misconstrued and normally “studs” are ridiculed due to this. So let’s clear this up. Femme, Stud, Aggressive, blah, blah, blah, these are all terms to describe TRAITS and VERY LOOSELY appearance. But although “studs” generally dress/look more masculine than femmes this does not mean that a stud has to be manly. Who gave you that dumb idea? Just because she likes to wear a wrap instead of braids, dreads or a low-cut does not make her any less aggressive than the next stud. Just because she doesn’t want to wear her pants 3 sizes too big does not mean she’s not just as “studly” as the next stud.
[Okay maybe I do hate labels. If it were up to me we'd all just be lesbians- no other labels needed.]

But anyway what really IRKS me is the idea of some lesbians that it is not okay for two studs to date. !*&#*! Say what?! And recently I’ve heard some more ignorant ladies say that it’s okay for two femmes to have sex but not to date. *@^$^?! WHAT?! I really don’t even want to understand where these notions come from. How can you fight for the right to get married and the right to be looked at in the same light as straight couples but THEN turn right around and discriminate against people who are just like you?! That makes you a big ass hypocrite. That burns me up inside. Lesbians get your shit together. It’s NEVER wrong for two people to love each other. It doesn’t matter what they dress like, act like WHATEVER. You can’t ask for equality while you’re discriminating against someone else.